In societies that trumpet
individual rights, see everything as fleeting and see no value in
sticking to something that's difficult, deciding to get married today
takes courage, Pope Francis told young people in Assisi.
"Don't be afraid of taking definitive steps, like that of marriage," the
pope told thousands of young adults and teenagers who flocked to see
him Oct. 4 in the square outside Assisi's Basilica of St. Mary of the
Angels.
As the pope's meeting-filled day in Assisi turned to evening, he arrived
at the basilica and went straight to a group of people with
disabilities, taking his time to bless them, kiss them and be kissed by
them. He also entered the basilica to visit the "Porziuncola," the tiny
church first entrusted to St. Francis in the early 1200s; when St.
Francis heard God tell him to rebuild the church, he first thought he
meant the little chapel.
When the pope went back outside to begin his meeting with the youths,
some of them asked questions about marriage, about discerning a
vocation, about evangelization and about making the world more just.
Although Pope Francis already had been in Assisi 10 hours and had
celebrated Mass and given five speeches, he energetically ad-libbed and
had the crowd roaring with laughter when he told the story of a woman
who said her son was in his 30s, had a girlfriend, but wouldn't get
married.
"I told her, 'Ma'am, stop ironing his shirts,'" the pope said.
But Pope Francis took the question about marriage and family life very
seriously, telling the young people that Christian marriage is a "real
vocation, just like priesthood and religious life are. Two Christians
who marry each other have recognized in their love story the Lord's
call, the vocation to form one flesh, one life from the two, male and
female."
"It takes courage to start a family," he said, and the modern world not
only doesn't help, it seems to put obstacles in the way, "privileging
individual rights rather than the family" and trying to convince
everyone that relationships should last only as long as there are no
difficulties.
Pope Francis said his parents and the young people's grandparents and
great-grandparents married in very different times. Economically, they
faced many more challenges and even war, but they had the "certainty
that the Lord was with them, that their family was blessed by God with
the sacrament of matrimony and that their mission of bringing children
into the world and raising them also was blessed."
While God inscribed the vocation of marriage in human nature, the pope
said, "celibacy or virginity for the kingdom of heaven" is a
complementary vocation and "is the vocation Jesus himself lived."
Priesthood and religious life do require giving up the possibility of
marrying and having children, he said, "but virginity for the kingdom of
God is not a 'no,' it's a 'yes,'" it is a total response to God's call.
Pope Francis said the only way a person can hear God's voice and discern a vocation is by praying regularly.
"Having this familiar relationship with the Lord is like keeping the
window of our life open so that he can make his voice heard," he said.
As for the Christian obligations to share the good news of salvation
with others and to work for more just and peaceful societies, Pope
Francis told the young people that the two go together.
"The Gospel, dear friends, doesn't have to do only with religion, but
with the human person, the whole person, and with the world, society and
human civilization," he said.
The Gospel tells people that they need salvation, which is something
anyone should be able to see just by looking around them. Sin and the
power of evil are at work in individual lives and on a much larger
scale, he said.
"But evil is not invincible, and the Christian does not surrender in the
face of evil," he said. "God is greater than evil. God is infinite
love, mercy without limits, and this love vanquished evil at its roots
in the death and resurrection of Christ."
The Christian mission has only one focus: to change individual's lives so they change the world, Pope Francis said.
"Look at St. Francis; he did both things with the strength of the one
Gospel. Francis made the faith grow and renewed the church; at the same
time, he renewed society, making it more fraternal, but always with the
Gospel," the pope said.
Evangelize and work for justice, the pope told the young people:
"Carrying the Gospel with the witness of our lives transforms the
world."