So, from next year, Humanist weddings will have legal status in
Ireland, following legislation in the Oireachtas.
Civil marriage service
law will be amended to include such secular ceremonies.
There has been a big growth in non-religious weddings during the past
15 years: in 1996 only six percent of nuptials were in a registry
office.
By 2011, this had increased to 29pc of all marriages. This is
indeed a very substantial increase, and frankly indicates that the
churches are losing ground in providing religious weddings.
Commerce
If this were the world of commerce, it would be the occasion to call
in a marketing consultant to research why this is happening.
Is it
simply a matter of faith - do fewer couples believe in the Christian
form of wedlock?
Is it a question of fashion, of style, of peer group
pressure?
Is it that church weddings seem too old-fashioned and conformist?
Has the Church itself failed to make a sufficiently good case for religious weddings?
Is it because more people are marrying for the second (or subsequent)
time and do not qualify (or do not wish for) a church wedding?
Is it a dislike of formal rites? Yet that does not seem to apply to
First Holy Communions, which still represent a significant ritual moment
in a child’s life?
Is it a fear of expense? More formal weddings often do cost more.
But as the ‘wedding fayre’ business is very pro-active at selling the
wedding brand, and all its accessories, I doubt that humanist weddings
will uniformly remain budget occasions.
Humanist
Humanist weddings aren’t my idea of a good day out, but live and let
live. If that’s what some people choose, the State is entitled to enable
this possibility.
And perhaps the competition will sharpen up the churches’ approach to wedding days.
My suggestions would include: (a) the Christian faiths should
advertise the advantage of a church wedding, which includes a unique
location for music, flowers and pretty frocks; (b ) they should offer a
price-range of weddings, from cheap and cheerful to De Luxe, with all
the trimmings; (d) a faith service is a sacrament and emphasise that
couples who make sacramental vows tend to have more lasting marriages;
(e) no other competitor can offer that special spiritual dimension to
the sealing of a relationship like a church wedding; (f) the Church has
been doing this for centuries - anything else is just imitation.
The emergence of the humanist marriage service in Ireland should also
be the launch of an affirmative campaign by churches to compete - and
to beat the competition!