A nontraditional Catholic organization has offered to provide
confirmation services to a Barnesville teen after they were denied
because of his support for gay marriage.
“I did speak to
the father of the young man and let them know the Evangelical Catholic
Diocese of the Northwest would be happy to confirm the young man if he
is interested in doing so,” said Bishop James Wilkowski of Chicago.
The
family of Lennon Cihak, 17, says he was denied participation in the
confirmation ceremony at Assumption Catholic Church in Barnesville after
their priest — the Rev. Gary La-Moine — was made aware of a pro
same-sex marriage photo on Lennon’s Facebook page last month.
A message left on the family’s answering machine Wednesday was not returned.
Lennon’s
parents, Shana and Doug, both of whom have lived in Barnesville their
entire lives and attended the same church for just as long, told The
Forum newspaper that LaMoine denied the religious sacrament to their son
in mid-October.
This came, they said, just a day after
LaMoine was shown a Facebook photo of Lennon with a political sign
encouraging people to vote against the Minnesota amendment on the ballot
earlier this month that would have changed the state’s constitution to
define marriage as explicitly being between one man and one woman — a
measure that ultimately failed.
“The family has been informed they can’t participate in the Sacrament of Communion anymore,” Wilkowski said. “Not
only has their son been dropped from confirmation class, but the family
has been prevented from receiving the Sacrosanct of the Eucharist.
There’s a tremendous amount of pain and trauma the family is going
through.”
Wilkowski describes the Evangelical Catholic
Church as “separate but equal” to the traditional Roman Catholic Church.
“We are a validly consecrated Catholic faith community,” he said. “We
do have some pastoral differences between the Roman Church and ours.”
One
difference is that priests can marry. Another is that women can become
priests. The church also offers a quicker path to annulments after a
divorce — a process that Wilkowski said can take up to 10 years in the
traditional church, leaving members in limbo.
The Evangelical Catholic Church is also “non-discriminatory,” when it comes to the sexual orientation of its members.
“All people are welcome,” Wilkowski said.
The church was founded in 1997, he added.
“We are a new branch on the old tree of Catholicism,” Wilkowski said. “Seventy-five percent of the people who have come to us have come to us via Rome — others are from the Lutheran tradition.”
He said the Cihak family in Barnesville has not yet decided whether to take his church up on its offer of confirmation.
“The
family is extremely overwhelmed by all the media attention,” he said.
“They’re looking for a quiet couple of days, waiting for the dust to
settle.”
If the teen does decide to seek confirmation,
Wilkowski said he would be willing to meet the family in Wisconsin,
where an Evangelical Catholic Church exists, or travel to Minnesota, if
necessary. “I’d be happy to come to Minnesota if we could find somewhere
to celebrate the Mass of the Sacrament in a dignified place.”
Wilkowski
said his church holds no rancor towards the Roman Catholic Church, but
says there have been membership battles between the two in Illinois and
Wisconsin, and threats of excommunication towards church members
considering the switch.
He believes the Roman Catholic
Church hierarchy in Minnesota is angry about the defeat of the marriage
amendment and the Cihak family was caught in the backlash.
“I
want to make it very clear,” he said. “My offer to confirm Lennon is
not an act of sticking my nose into Rome’s business — Rome has discarded
this boy — they’ve put him on the junk pile. I believe I
have a responsibility as a Catholic and a priest to reach out to him … I
truly understand and appreciate the trauma he is going through.”