Father-of-two Martin Barlow made history on Sunday when he was
ordained one of the first permanent deacons in the Catholic Church in
Northern Ireland.
For Martin, who lives in Drumcree parish, it was the
culmination of four years of preparation, involving commitment not just
from him but his wife Ursula and extended family.
In fact, around
80 members of the couple’s family attended the ordination in St
Patrick’s Cathedral, Armagh, followed by a reception in Drumcree
Pastoral Centre on the Garvaghy Road.
Martin, who has two sons
Shea (18) and Oisin (13), is a graphic designer and will combine his new
church role with his family and working life.
He has been
appointed to Derrynoose, Keady and Madden for a year where he will
assist at masses and with baptisms, weddings and funerals.
He said, “The only thing I can’t do is celebrate the Eucharist and hear confession.”
As a young man, Martin had toyed with the idea of becoming a priest. He
said, “My grandmother, Elizabeth Murphy, used to pray that I would
become a priest and I had an uncle who was in the priesthood.”
However, after finishing school he opted instead to go on to university
where he studied graphic design, eventually meeting his wife and
settling down into family life.
But his faith lapsed when a
medical issue emerged in the family and for four or five years he
stopped going to mass on Sundays and became a Christmas and Easter
attender.
In 2006 he experienced what he describes as a “renewal
of faith”. He explained, “I had gone on an Alpha course to support a
friend but the floodgates opened. I made a promise that I could no
longer be a Sunday Catholic. I had no idea I would become an ordained
minister. I didn’t go seeking the ministry. It came to me.”
Three
years later, Martin heard that the church was looking for men to apply
to become permanent deacons.
He said, “My greatest fear was how to tell
my wife that I wanted to do it.”
But he needn’t have worried as Ursula
was fully behind him.
The first year involved the couple
attending monthly retreats after which Martin was informed that he had
been accepted onto the three-year formation course, which entailed study
weekends and written assignments.
Said Martin, “I still have to
be a dad and hold down a job but we have been told that our marriage and
family comes first, followed by our jobs and then the ministry. We chose my youngest son Oisin to officially dress me in the vestments
at Sunday’s ceremony, but the night before I took the two boys to the
cinema, just to let them see that I will still be their dad.”